Really interesting piece in Jezebel about The Problem With Being "Sexy But Not Sexual":
Paris Hilton's remarkably perceptive remark about herself that she was "sexy, but not sexual." ... Young women with the Paris Paradox were raised in a culture that promised sexual freedom, but what they ended up with looked a lot more like obligation than opportunity....
Not every young girl experiences herself as an object of desire. But virtually every young girl is aware that young women are "supposed" to be desired. Unprecedented opportunities to compete on an equal playing field educationally, socially and financially with men have done damn all to release young women from the pressure to be sexually alluring. And given how blunt and brazen so many of their male peers (and, sadly, so many much older men) are about what they want sexually, it's little wonder that developing one's own sexuality is often a much-later development than developing one's sexiness.
It also included this quote, which was new to me: "We are the daughters of feminists who said, "You can be anything" and we heard "You have to be everything."".